For other inquiries, Contact Us. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Meanwhile, your husband doesnt understand why you keep complaining about the same things. I knew what he had in mind but was drunk enough to accept. If money is not an issue, ask your husband to work fewer hours or change his schedule in a way that works for both of you. He buys all this fitness equipment that HAS NEVER BEEN USED. Many younger couples split housework evenly compared to their older counterparts. Im 8 weeks pregnant and I cant stand my husband. Ive definitely havent cleaned up sometimes esp when moving fast & having young kids! Things have to be his way almost all the time. There were plenty of problems, many stemming from her husbands tendencies to control her life and his lack of sensitivity to her needs. Have a look at womensaid.org.uk. Whether you are a new parent or pregnant, if you have any concerns or questions about your relationships with your partner or other family members, you can discuss them here and find support. If you cant stand the sight of your husband and feel miserable about being married to the man you once thought would be your Prince Charming, then in most cases you have your work cut out for you. Whatever your situation, be ready to listen and adjust your expectations. It drives me crazy. It isn't a rough patch or something that I will work through. Being significantly overweight or underweight is also known to disrupt fertility. We strive to provide you with a high quality community experience. Some issues can be too tough to fix, even deal-breakers. This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. Lets not let the standard for men be so low that we leave it as well at least he gave kiddo a bath, like wow, he bathed his kid? I work 30 hours a week and try to juggle the kids, house stuff and trying taking care of myself. However, most marital conflict occurs due to hurtful dynamics and patterns between you. While many troubled marriages can be saved, some spouses decide its better to end the marriage instead of fighting one more battle. Help a BroMo out and give her an upvote, ok? Obviously, you cannot change your husband, which I'm sure you know after more than 40 years together. 100% of the time the chores didnt get completed is because the baby needed me more in that moment and I was rushing. I just need to figure out a clean way out. Think about the reasons you love him and of how great he will be as a dad. Ive finally accepted that I made a huge mistake and am ready for divorce. We want OP to feel loved, and not in a tough way. Communication problems cover a wide range of behaviors. If you try to talk about a situation when you are both angry, the discussion will be guided solely by emotion. You get the impression your husband is lazy and blind to the household needs. For most couples, the spark goes out more quickly for one person than the other. Some men wont even get off the couch. Or feel like there spouse might find them unattractive? No doubt you suffer from the same lack of understanding that so many men do how physically and emotionally horrible it is for a woman to have sex when she isnt turned on or with a man she doesnt want to be with. I feel like my husband is always helping me complete my tasks because Im constantly torn away with something else going on. He fixed our garage door, does all of the snow blowing, etc. I dont want to be around my husband any more and need help getting out of this mess of a relationship. When a couple grows apart, intimacy becomes challenging to maintain. Hes just pissed off because he has to go to work while you are at home taking care of yourself and baby - Hes the lazy pig and being childish - its not because you are at home that you are his slave and have to do everything - how dare he call you names ! This educational content is not medical or diagnostic advice. Instead of looking at the underlying reason for why sex is not plentiful in their marriage and addressing it with their wife, men will tend to hold a grudge and sometimes negative attitudes feelings will creep into their thoughts about yousometimes without even realizing it. When we argue he threatens me with kicking me out and putting me on the street. While this was not the case in this situation, what if you really feel you married the wrong guy? I'm 8 weeks pregnant and I can't stand my husband. Gaining weight during pregnancy is normal - like is he for real ? I dont want to lose him, but how long do I go on being unhappy in myself? Like no one waits on me while I have the baby. So I explained she needed to have a heart to heart discussion with her husband and convince him that the tighter he tries to hold on to her, the worse it is for both of them. . He didnt understand how on one hand she would talk of wanting to have a baby (he was OK with the idea), but when it came time for intimacy, she would withhold that which he wanted. I have a 1 year old and I'm 8 weeks pregnantI don't know if it's because I'm extra tired or what but with my first pregnancy I wasn't such an asshole. Group Leaders arent expected to spend any additional time in the community, and are not held to a set schedule. No judgments, no nastiness. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. It sounds like you are building up resentment, so I think it's time to talk it out and find a solution so you don't just build more anger. He does work long hours and does 4 on 5 off rotations. So I MC on Jan 26 and the only thing thats been keeping me going is this isnt it for me we can try again when were ready. Lol. Big mistake as she said, if I didnt tell my husband, she would. One of the guys hadnt been working with us for long but he came along too. I am CONSTANTLY cleaning up something. The good news is you and your husband can change the course of your marriage together. I, too, have done all of the above-mentioned things, and frankly Id be offended if someone insinuated that it somehow means Im not a good enough partner, wife, mother, etc. I think I should move out and teach him a lesson. I cant even explain it. im probably being a bitch right now but I can't stand my husband right now, everything he does annoys me. When I reached out to this woman to gain more insight into what else was going on in her marriage, she admitted that while her relationship was in a bad place, she had exaggerated her situation and emotional condition somewhat. My doctor put me off work due to being a high risk pregnancy. I agree. Learn more about, I Never Thought I'd Be a Single Parent Now I Can't Imagine Doing It Any Other Way. hahaha this is my husband too! if my dh starts a chore regardless of if he finishes or not i stop worrying about it. women need to stop looking at chores like its only their responsibility. Group Owners uphold the core values of the brand by reporting content that violates the community guidelines. But it is possible for him to change, especially now that he's retiring. This is so funny. Like you know where it goes. But know that in the end, her relationship actually got better. If all the answers are no, go for a walk. Because I was TIRED or moving fast. In nearly every case, the abuse survivor is better off walking away. I DO HONEY. I know he is just trying to hurt me. I think you can handle this gently by first acknowledging the good things he is doing and then explaining that it would be most helpful if he fully completed the job. However, some people grow apart. For further details of our complaints policy and to make a complaint please click this link: thesun.co.uk/editorial-complaints/, I got pregnant from a drunken one-night stand after an evening out, My husband was shocked I was pregnant but supportive and understanding, I felt full of regrets straight after the one-night stand with my colleague, Denise Welshclaimssexual cheating wasn't as bad as emotional infidelity on Loose Women, My fiancee refuses to apologise for jibe about my brother's fiancee's wedding dress, Frankie cheats on Anne while she's away on holiday, Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO). Hey mamas, Im going to try to describe this the best I can. I missed my period a couple of weeks later, did a test and it was positive. Encourage your husband to speak with his family about a situation that upsets you, even if hes uncomfortable doing it. I cant stand him and resent him for his strong reliance on me and petty attitude towards everyone and everything. Whats often not taught to men are good listening skills. We haven't had sex since conception and haven't slept on the same bed. (Sorry for my bad English. Many of these changes are necessary to the pregnancy, such as the belly and the breasts increasing in size. I was embarrassed. I'm somewhere in the middle. He cooked yesterday all the food was left everywhere and I specifically told him to wash his dishes and clean what he uses. Log Out. It is very rarely 50/50, even in the healthiest of relationships! So by telling your husband you very much want to explore a new sexual understanding involving much greater intimacy (perhaps even greater eroticism) you will immediately get his attention, his fullest of attention. When she was born I totally missed him and wanted to cuddle him all the time. Additionally, living with extreme or chronic stress, experiencing trauma, or having insomnia and other sleep issues may reduce fertility. The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of What to Expect. That would have been really intense. Replacing my small problems with much bigger problems does not seem right. I still wish he could have checked a few more of my boxes. We survived we've been together now 9 years and expecting baby number three! It sucks. That did not mean she was not suffering and that she was perfectly content with her husband and his behavior. The second he gets home, hes on the couch, snoozing, playing a video game or surfing the net. Its so frustrating when they try to help but then end up creating more work for us. This is baby # 3. 1. But I dont know what to do and am afraid he will stalk me if I go off and live somewhere else. He has a hot temper and he basically depends on me for EVERYTHING. Sounds like you two need some counseling. He treats me me like a princess even though I make him feel like ****. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, creepy pedo posing as an OT/speech therapist. You feel frazzled, and your husband is just chilling out. Create an account or log in to participate. No wife should feel like they have to make love to their husband just because he wants it. Now I dont care about what anyone thinks, I just want my freedom back. We cant make clones of ourselves. I don't think you are crazy or hormonal at all. In the beginning of our relationship, I loved his attention and he made me feel like I was his everything. In came from an insecurity that if she was out having fun with some else, then he must not be good enough for her. The good news is I know there is help. Can't stand my husband! He is an OTR driver he does oversized and super loads. After 20 years, I can't stand my husband. Either the abuse ends, or the marriage does. That excitement would have been partly fuelled by the infatuation you get at the beginning of a relationship when erotic love and discovering each other keep things exciting. He helps a lot with the kids but everything he helps with is left a mess. He is rude, critical, immature and entitled. Intense. A man might disagree on whats essential and not see things from his wifes perspective. Those are magical words to a man. I dont know if I think its nitpicking. Saving a marriage after breaking a cycle of abuse is rare. I wish so badly I could feel that. My husband feels like I am useless, he does nothing to help around the house and does nothing to help with our daughter. If you feel a message or content violates these standards and would like to request its removal please submit the following information and our moderating team will respond shortly. If youre looking for more clarity, look at the following examples. Ask Philippa Marriage. But the larger truth is my client figured out that her problem was not because her husband was a rotten scoundrel. Cant Stand Your Husband? Tell me why this one kicks off the album. You asked who half sweeps a kitchen? This is critically important. What enables you to get into a positive, loving mood around your husband? 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. think twice before sharing personal details, foster a friendly and supportive environment, remove fake accounts, spam and misinformation, delete posts that violate our community guidelines, reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts. Note that once you confirm, this action cannot be undone. After a few glasses of wine I was flirting. Oh well, lol. If hes truly trying to be helpful, then Id share with him that leaving jobs half done doesnt take anything off your plate. 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